[[Protectors]] won't surrender their beliefs, roles, and [[Burdens]] so long as they're afraid something bad will happen to the system or the parts they're protecting if they do surrender: [[Protectors have good reasons for their roles and beliefs, even when they're extreme, irrational, and wrong]]. [[Exiles]] won't surrender their burdens so long as they're still afraid of the past traumatic event in which they're stuck in, what the traumatic event means about them and life (in their mind), and circumstances which relate to the traumatic event: [[Exiles are frozen in past traumatic events because their trauma wasn't compassionately witnessed and validated]]. [[Parts]] also won't surrender until they safe trusting that [[Self]] is there to love and hold them, is there to welcome all that arises, and is capable of leading them: [[To become Self-led, parts need to learn to trust Self]] and [[The goal of IFS is to become Self-led]].